"The Differences between Men and Women: Marital Advice"

           The Differences between Men and Women:                                         Marital Advice

The Atmosphere that women need and must have in order to have sex with their husbands is the exact same Atmosphere men need in order to open their hearts to their wives in intimate detailed conversations.

If you laugh at your wife when she gets undressed in front of you, it mortifies her and humiliates her horribly.

The exact same is true Ladies, that when your husband opens his heart to you to express intimate details of his life with you, and you turn around and tell your girlfriends who tell their husbands who are friends with your husband who in turn tell their friend, your husband.

It all gets back to your husband and crushes his trust in you because he fears to tell you anything important and this is his heart speaking, "I cannot tell her anything, she is not reliable, not confidential, she’s going to tell her girlfriends then everyone will know"

So the next time you want to have intimate detailed conversations with him he shuts his heart to you and refuses to share not even one thing with you.

And Men, when you shame your wives when they undress before you, is it really any wonder why they won’t have sex with you, or get naked before your presence?

Of course it is not a secret. You hurt them severely and it is a wound that will not be easily healed.

As tender and immodest as women are with their Physical Appearance, so are Men excruciatingly tender and immodest in their emotions.

Men, If you criticize your wives appearance she will hide from you covered up in fig leaves just as Adam and Eve hid from each other in the Garden of Eden after they sinned, and they covered up their nakedness from “Each other” using fig leaves.

The reason Jesus cursed the fig tree in the Gospel of Mark was because the fig tree he cursed was a symbol of the Pride of Mankind. Who when man discovered they were naked, they hid themselves using “Fig Leaves”

Mark 11:12-14 and Mark 11:20-21.

Women, If you criticize your husband’s ideas he shared with you from his heart he will never share anything with you ever again because he doesn't want to be made fun of, laughed at or have any of his thoughts, ideas, or suggestions criticized.

Ladies, he doesn't want to be wounded by you, and Gentlemen, she doesn't want to be wounded by you either.

Learn to understand each other and the divorce rate will plummet!

Learn how to reside together according to wisdom, and of knowledge of one another. 

1st Peter 3:7 says it best.

The Greek word used for the word "Dwell" is the Greek word, "Sunoikeo" and it means "to reside together"

Likewise also the word for "Weaker" is the Greek word, "Asthenes" and it means "more fragile" and does not in any way mean she is inferior. 

As Fragile as Women are in their Appearance is exactly how Fragile Men are in their Emotions.

I bet you heard your father say big boys don't cry. Well Papa is wrong. Real men do cry but in secret for fear of being ridiculed by other men and it ought not to be so. And when a man comes to his wife in secret and cries, and she tells her friends, it shatters the trust of the marriage.

Men need security for their intimate moments in conversations and revealing emotions to their wives.

And wives need the same security to engage in sexual intercourse with their husbands.

So you husbands need to lose your ego.

And all of you wives, you need to be sensitive to what your husband tells you from now on.

"What is shared between the both of you in your private conversations and in the bedroom stays in those conversations and the bedroom between the two of you and does not get shared with friends."

 

1st Peter 3:7 reads, "Likewise you husbands, dwell {reside together} with them {your wives} according to knowledge, giving honor to the wife, as unto the weaker vessel {not literally a weaker or inferior vessel to yourselves} but be the both of you heirs together of the grace of life; that your prayers be not hindered."

Love Always, Carl Vitale~

1st Corinthians 13