Voice of The Prophetic: "If I Have Not Love I Am Nothing At All"

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“Love is Gentle, Love is Kind, Love is Unselfish, and Endures All Things, So Love One Another This Way, Even As I Have Loved You Says the L-rd”

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If we grew up, never knowing the touch of our Mothers embrace, or the gentle moments of our Father's love, then we grow up, and feel less than nothing, and we reproduce more of the same into the world.

For women who never knew proper love from their fathers, tend to gravitate toward improper relationships in their lives. If they were molested, abused, or mistreated by loved ones, or their mother, or their father, they develop a warped, bent, and distorted view of what love truly is, and it affects all their relationships.

This occurs because they have no other reference point with which to draw upon to form, and base their relationships on. And many times what ends up occurring in women is they look for someone who will treat them the way they relate to love.

So if she was molested by her father, maybe an aunt, or uncle, perhaps a cousin, either male or female, then she develops her main concepts basing them upon her first experiences of what was perpetrated upon her, and then she interprets that as what love is, and her expectancy is set up in her mind based upon those aspects.

So if the above is true, she forms an expectancy that in order for her to feel love, she is supposed to be bullied, harassed, bossed around, told what to wear, what to say, how to think, and when she gets out of line she expects abuse as the normal response because that is all she ever received from those first experiences which when she was impressionable in her adolescent years, that hey, this is what love is.

And anything that doesn't fit that mold, she will ultimately unequivocally outright reject because she doesn't have the ability that will enable her to relate to love on any other level, precipice, or fashion. And she can never fully allow herself to feel, nor can she give herself unto her spouse because that she is uncomfortable with true intimacy due to the damage of the forced intimacy perpetrated upon her at such an early, and impressionable age.

She quickly develops coping mechanisms, such as acting out in various ways such as promiscuously, violently, self sabotaging her normal loving relationships, exhibiting manic depression, bipolar personality disorders, and over indulged eating habits to attempt to medicate her painful memories, and current life situations because that was how she learned to cope with tragedies which because she was not told, nor was it corrected in Christian Therapeutic Counseling, that the ways she was taught to love, and to receive love, and to also reciprocate love, that they are not the correct, holistic, and the healthy forms of loving one another.

Sometimes it takes years, upon years of counseling before a woman who was abused, or molested when young can come to terms with the trauma she experienced when either growing up, or in her teen years. And if she was forcibly raped in her adult years, she forms what is known as the term disassociation disorders, where she cannot, nor will not be able to externalize her reactions unto the initial trauma she suffered, but then she copes differently to intimacy from then on, because the memory often time vivid flashbacks pop up flashing across the projector screen of her mind causing her to not only limit her exposure to intimacy, but if she does allow herself to experience intimacy it sparks the response of her disassociating disorder as she frays away her mate, or spouse because it is simply her coping skills kicking in to defend her against the memories of her assailant from her previous experience with her abuser.

Some women react differently to aggression, and others flock to it because it is their normalcy, and is all they ever knew, but other women may comfort themselves with a barrage of different behaviors, such as denial, excessive eating some of her favorite comfort foods.

Much of the same responses in men seem to be similar, and do typically apply with a few exceptions.

Men are more abrasive, and pridefully attempt to cover up the majority of their festering wounds, both old, and new by playing it off, biding by the sociological expectancy of society is to mask their pain, to internalize it, and most women will almost always externalize their pain, but some women also internalize their emotional festering pain, and numb it with comfort foods, as is such the case also with many men as well. And yet differently men display different coping skills, where the cookies, ice cream, potato chips are some of her comfort foods, his may be beer, jack daniels, jim bean, captain morgan, and he may even react violently in the bed during sexual intimacy by being rough because that is what was done to him at an early age, so that is how he expresses love to his mate, or his spouse.

In any event the heart the Bible says in Jeremiah 17:9-10, the heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it? I the L-RD search the heart, I try the reins {the will, the desires, and the emotions} I do so even to give every man according to his ways, and according to the fruit of his all of his doings.

And in the Gospel according to Mark 7:21-23 and Luke 16:15 JCLHT says, for from within, out of the heart of men, proceed evil thoughts, and adulteries, and fornications, and murders, and thefts, and covetousness, and wickedness, and deceit, lasciviousness, and an evil eye, blasphemy, and pride, and foolishness: for of all these evil things thus do come from within, and do completely defile the man.

And he said unto them, You are of those which seek to always justify yourselves before men; but G-D truly does know your hearts: for that which is highly esteemed among men is but an utter abomination in the sight of the L-RD G-D.

If you will be free, and be free in your hearts, your minds, in all of your imaginations, and thoughts, and memories, and all of your deeds, and even be set at liberty from those misdeeds you are presently held prisoner thereby, then come to me says the L-rd, learn of me, for I am meek, humble, merciful, gentle, kind, good unto all, and righteous in all of my ways, and you will find rest, rest for your weary minds, hearts, and your souls. For my burden is light, and my yoke is easy to be entreated in love.

Isaiah 30:15, Isaiah 32:17-18, Isaiah 59:17, Matthew 11:28-30, James 2:17-20, James 3:13-18 say, Come unto me, all of you that labour and are heavy laden, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you, and learn of me; for I am meek and lowly in heart: and ye shall find rest unto your souls. For my yoke is easy, and my burden is light. For thus saith the L-rd G-D, the Holy One of Israel; In returning and rest shall ye be saved; in quietness and in confidence shall be your strength: and ye would not.

And the work of righteousness shall be peace; and the effect of righteousness quietness and assurance for ever. For he put on righteousness as a breastplate, and an helmet of salvation upon his head; and he put on the garments of vengeance for clothing, and was clad with zeal as a cloke. According unto all their deeds, accordingly he will repay, fury to his adversaries, recompence to his enemies; to the islands he will surely thus repay recompence.

Even so faith, if it hath not works, is dead, being alone. Yes, a man may say, you have faith, and I have works: show to me your faith without your visible works, and I will show unto you my faith by my visible works of the law of the Spirit of Life in Christ Jesus. You believe that there is one L-RD G-D; and you do well: the devils also believe, and they tremble in terror. But wilt thou know, O vain man, that faith without any visible works is dead?

Who is a wise man and endued with knowledge among you? let him shew out of a good conversation of all his works with meekness of wisdom. But if ye have bitter envying and strife in your hearts, glory not, and lie not against the truth. Yet this wisdom descends not from above, but is earthly, and sensual, devilish. For where envying and strife is, there is confusion and every evil work. But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.

And the fruit of righteousness is sown in peace of them that make peace. And Hosea 10:12-13 says, Sow to yourselves in righteousness, reap in mercy; break up your fallow ground: for it is time to seek the L-RD, till he come and rain righteousness upon you. For you have plowed wickedness, you thus have reaped iniquity; you have eaten the fruit of lies: because you didst trust in your way, in the multitude of the sins of your mighty men.

But 2nd Corinthians 10:3-5, and in Colossians 3:3-16 JCLHT says we can tear down strongholds, and re-establish the mighty fortress of G-Ds holy precepts, and his teachings laid forth throughout the Holy Scriptures in the Holy Bible, G-Ds very word unto all mankind.

For though we walk in the flesh, we do not war after the flesh: For the weapons of our warfare are not carnal, but mighty through our L-RD G-D to the pulling down of strong holds; Casting down imaginations, and every high thing that exalteth itself against the knowledge of G-D Almighty, and we are to bring into captivity every thought to the obedience of Christ.

For ye are dead, and your life is hid with Christ in G-D. When Christ, who is our life, shall appear, then shall ye also appear with him in glory. Mortify therefore your members which are upon the earth; fornication, uncleanness, inordinate and also improper affection, evil concupiscence, and covetousness, which is idolatry: for which things' sake the wrath of G-D the L-RD cometh upon the children of disobedience: within the which ye also walked some time, when ye lived in them. But now ye also put off all these; anger, wrath, all malice, and all blasphemy, deny filthy communication, and let it not proceed from out of your mouth.

Lie not one to another, seeing that ye have put off the old man with his deeds; and have put on the new man, which is renewed in knowledge after the image of him that created him: where there is neither Jew, or Non Jew, neither circumcision nor uncircumcision, Barbarian, Scythian, bond nor free: but Christ is all, and in all.

Clothe yourselves therefore, as the elect of the L-RD G-D, holy and beloved, in bowels of mercies, and in kindness, humbleness of mind, meekness, longsuffering; forbearing one another, and always forgiving one another, if any man have a quarrel against any: even as Christ forgave you, so also do you your own selves. And also above all these things put on charity, which is the bond of perfectness in pure love. And let the peace of the L-RD G-D rule within your hearts, to the which also ye are called in one body; having many members, and be ye thankful.

Let the word of Christ dwell in you richly in all wisdom; teaching and admonishing one another in psalms and hymns and spiritual songs, singing with grace in your hearts to the L-rd. And whatsoever ye do in word or deed, do all in the name of the L-rd Jesus, giving thanks unto Almighty G-D through Faith in Christ Jesus, through the Father who abides within him, as also in us, if we abide in his word.

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